Self-trust is not constant confidence
Trusting yourself does not mean knowing the outcome in advance. It can mean believing that you will pay attention, respond to new information, and care for yourself if a choice does not work out.
This definition leaves room for uncertainty without handing every decision to someone else.
Practise where the stakes are manageable
Choose small decisions that usually become overcomplicated: when to reply, what invitation to accept, how much explanation to give, or what you actually prefer. Notice the choice and what happened next.
The aim is not to prove that every instinct is right. It is to build evidence that you can make a decision, observe the result, and adjust.
Keep a record of your own participation
When reviewing a decision, include more than the outcome. Did you gather enough information? Did you notice pressure? Did you act in line with what mattered to you? Did you repair or change course when needed?
Counselling can help separate your voice from old expectations and create a more compassionate, accountable way to make choices.